Sometime between the ages of three and four, I developed an alter ego named Sally Kimball.
By alter ego I mean I actually spent a period of my time showing up in the world as her, demanding that people call me Sally (which came out as ''Thally' due to a not-so-subtle lisp), and sitting at my play desk like it was her big fancy office.
Sally was audacious and very ballsy.
Sally was never worried about being annoying, whether people liked her, or whether or not what she was doing was correct or appropriate.
In fact, unlike Little Liz, Adult Liz, and all of the other women in my family, Sally did not worry at all.
She was too busy making herself known, making her needs known, making deals, and making phone calls.
Sally loved to make phone calls. She joyfully answered the (pretend) phone with a jaunty:
Hell-oh-oh! This is Thally Kim-ball!
She made up her own rules and took joy in doing so.
As a chronic rule-follower, it feels like much of my adult life has been an attempt to reclaim some of Sally's boldness, and, more importantly, the joy with which she goes about her business.
To take any leap, I believe we have to make the excitement about taking the leap more important than the fears about taking it.
Sally understands this. She is having so much fun wanting what she wants and going after it that she doesn't bother to wonder whether people will like her. Thinking about whether she is worthy is a big snooze, because she has too many important phone calls to make.
I've developed a fun habit of asking What would Sally Kimball do? (WWSKD) when I'm feeling particularly stuck, obsessive, or over-thinking things too much.
In the spirit of bold moves and the Courageous15 beginning this Friday, I thought I'd go straight to the source to see if she wanted to share anything with all of you.
(Of course she did. Sally loves to unabashedly share her thoughts.)
Here is what she said:
Hell-oh-oh!! This is THALLY Kim-ball!
Write the email.
Take a nap.
Introduthe yourthelf to that perthon
Go off the grid.
Thart the thing.
Thay no to the other thing.
Let yourthelf want what you want.
Your work ith good. (Thtop judging)
Trutht what you know. (Thtop second-guessing)
You are fabulouth! Just Fabulouth! (Exactly as you are)
Of course there are times when things are more complex than jutht doing the thing, but, if you are anything like me, and you have the tendency to turn things over relentlessly in your mind, you might try asking WWSKD? and seeing what happens.
Sally teaches me that sometimes we need to do the next bold thing and let go of the story we have created about why we couldn't possibly.
And... let me say one more time in case you didn't hear it the first time:
You are fabulouth. Just fabulouth.
And you are doing the best you can.
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With love and deep admiration,