(Not the leap you’re supposed to make. Not someone else’s leap. Not a leap because it will get you a lot of likes on Instagram)
A leap that originates from the inside of you.
The inside part of you that's been whispering to send your creative work into the world, level up your career, grow, build a new relationship, allow yourself to be more seen, say no to something you don’t really want to do, end a partnership, become a more conscious ally, deepen your political activism, start that thing you keep talking about…
For many of us, there is a gap between those whisperings and what we’re actually doing. So we:
Become fixated on the wideness of that gap. (It’s very comfortable to keep ourselves at arm’s length from what we really want.)
Shame ourselves into “just being more fearless." (I mean … if she can do it on Facebook than why can’t I get my #$%* together, too?)
Beat ourselves up. (Because molding ourselves into others' likenesses and pummeling our sweet selves with empty aphorisms never seems to work.)
The Courageous15 shifts your focus away from the cycles of comparison, comfortable longing, and criticism, and focuses instead on what it will take to close the gap.
reorganize your relationship to FEAR
We tend not to leap because of terrifying things like:
Bothering people (or letting them down or annoying them)
Allowing ourselves to be fully seen and heard
Not being _________ enough (smart, experienced, connected, rich, thin, young, old, tech-saavy, organized, etc)
The lack of a guaranteed result
Breaking through to the next level and letting things get really really good
Most of the time, these fears get more of our attention than the meaningful things we want.
We need to change that.
Actions will be useless if we don't first reorganize our relationship to the things that scare us.
Well-made leaps begin with an energetic shift, and, in the Courageous15, so will we.
compound YOUR courage
For 15 minutes for 15 days, you will commit to your own courage.
15 minutes because it’s hard to say no to 15 minutes. 15 minutes because big things can happen in 15 minutes for 15 days. (We learned this in the Creative15.)
This isn’t about rigidly forcing yourself to take prescribed risks, but, rather, committing to cultivating your own courage muscle. By the end of the 15 days, you’ll most likely leave behind you a trail of bold actions, though that’s not the point.
The point is to learn about how your courage works. (Because courage does indeed work, but only if you work it.)
The point is to take an honest look at what is standing in your way - and learn what you have to think, feel, and do in order to take your leap.
The point is to observe what happens to you when you count yourself among the bold and discover the kind of authentic bravery that will serve you and your needsinstead of trying to warp yourself into else's idea of what it means to be brave.
You might already have a project or area of your life in mind that is requiring you to step up. If you don't, that's okay, too. You don't need to know what you will focus in order to commit to the 15 days. We will discover as we go.
But, in case you’re wondering, your trail of bold acts might include…
Asking for help / Moving your body in a new way / Starting a new creative project / Sending 15 emails to people who can help you / Taking time off / Speaking up / Not speaking up / Shipping your art / Sending out your manuscript / Initiating tough conversations with a family member / Radical self-care / Calling Elected Officials / Running for Office / 15 days of wild fun / Going on a bunch of first dates / Launching a program / Selling your art / Inviting a dream collaborator to work with you …
But those are my ideas, not yours. And this is about you.
level up (ORGANICally)
Your courage doesn't look like anyone else's, so we won't be comparing ourselves to each other.
I'm not interested in you taking a bunch of risks because they would be "good for you." We will intend to have a more sophisticated conversation and make a distinction between a brave or bold thing that you're supposed to do and the brave or bold thing that will best serve you.
(Understanding this distinction is, I believe, paramount to leveling up, and having funwhile you do it.)
I don't give you a rigid daily list of things to do; you are creative, and your needs are more expansive than that. I do share guidance and inquiry, daily, for 15 days, with enough flexibility to make space for you to grow in your own unique way.
I’ll draw on my 15+ years of research, training, and client experience to offer you prompts, insight and new ways of seeing. I do this alongside of you because that’s how I roll.
I am not a guru with all of the answers. I am insatiably curious about the momentum you will build when you commit to your own courage practice.
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You could do this on your own. You may have already tried:
(TODAY is the day I will finally do that / write that / send that out / eat that / say that...)
Something magical happens when we commit to something together.
When we draw strength from each other, share successes, observations, and encouragement we don’t have to work so hard. We can lean on each other and build on collective momentum. You might not even directly engage with anyone during the Courageous15, but knowing that others are out there and having a parallel experience will give you energy to keep going.
It is wildly superior to do it together than to muscle through it alone.
Beginning on the 15th, you will receive one short, meaningfully constructed email with prompts, inspiration, and guidance delivered to your inbox each morning of the 15 days. I'll also be continuing the conversation on Instagram; find me and say hi if that's a place you like to be.
I encourage you to share this with other folks who might be in need of some momentum. A dream I have is for all kinds of people from all over the world to do this together. I don’t know how exactly this big communal commitment to courage will change the air around us, but my hunch is that it will yield an individual and collective energy more magnificent and alive than we can even imagine…