1. Following your intuition is the most important thing.
2. Creating a legacy of risk-taking is profoundly more energizing and productive than trying to be liked by everyone. Courage is a muscle that must be regularly exercised. (The Courageous15, a companion project to the #Creative15 will be happening later this summer. Stay tuned for details...:)
3. The part you want to crop out of the picture is the most beautiful part of the picture. The parts you are embarrassed about are the most interesting parts of who you are, usually have the most value for other people, and make the best art.
4. If you want the whole thing, the Gods will give it to you, but you have to be ready for it. - Joseph Campbell. Safety trumps desire. Usually the things we want are not showing up because we have some sort of hidden resistance to them. Do the work to fully align with what you want to go big on.
5. Taking care of yourself is paramount to growth. Self-care is not to be trivialized, but, rather, the path to being excellent at whatever you want to do. Take days off, take care of your body, and stop letting busyness be your rubric for whether or not you are doing a good job at life. (Thank you to my coach, the extraordinary Kristine Oller, for helping me learn this and a zillion other essential ways of being and thinking.)
6. The best results happen when we give up the need for a result. Train your brain to recognize not knowing as progress, and allow yourself non-results oriented time to create.
7. Do the difficult work to prohibit The Tiny Terrorist Who Lives Inside of Your Head from mirroring the same oppressors you are marching and calling and petitioning against. Demand justice and respect internally so that you are walking your talk when you are fighting for it externally. Be the boss of your Tiny T and not the other way around.
8. You are not an airport. Leave your baggage unattended and see what happens.
9. Despite what you may have inherited or been trained to think, there is nothing wrong with you just because you were born. Worth = your birthright.
10. Self-doubt and fear are kerns on the path to your wonderwork - signs telling you to keep going.
11. Losses are the pathway to the bigger wins. If I'm being rejected from one thing, it's really just the path redirecting me elsewhere to where I'm supposed to be. - Amani Al-Khatahtbeh.
12. Decide to be prosperous.
13. Success happens in communion with others and is not a zero sum equation. Regular isolation will deaden your work and life. Be among brave and creative humans and you will become more brave and creative. Surround yourself with people whose skill sets are different than your own and you will take off.
14. When you want to create change in your life, conduct fun experiments instead of giving yourself strict ultimatums.
15. Your Inner Chid is your wisest mentor. Ask them regularly how they feel about the adult you have become, and respond to their guidance.
16. Do the difficult work to create your own healthy relationship to the digital world. Seek joy in the opportunities it provides and create strong boundaries around habits that send you down the rabbit hole of comparison and disconnection. (For the best digital marketing advice for creatives, get to know the wonderful work of Tony Howell).
17. Ask for what you really really want; go for the no, and you just might get a yes.
18. Things don't have to be so hard. The path of ease is a fruitful path.
19. Get to know who you are without the labels that hold you back, and don’t let your limitations be what make you unique. Allowing yourself to feel special because you have imposter syndrome, or are terrible at networking, or are really hard on yourself become excuses for doing your best. The past is not the present, and the brain is neuroplastic; you can behave your way into a new way of thinking and being.
20. You cannot worry and feel very very alive at the same time. Choose the latter.
21. Prayer works. (Thanks to the tremendous Alison Sinatra for this one)
22. There is no secret that everyone else knows that you don’t know.
23. Respect your work and allow your projects their complete natural cycle from idea to completion. Deadlines empower creation. Done is profoundly better than perfect.
24. Reduce your use of “kind of,” “um”, and “you know” from your speech, and watch the power of your connections, convictions, and communication amplify.
25. You are responsible for allowing yourself to be seen and heard. Stop waiting to be discovered and decide to be known.
26. Your intersections = the stories only you can tell. If you are a multi, create an episodic career around projects that live at your intersections. The world won't worry so much about you not fitting into a box if you don't; teach people how to feel about you.
27. Make learning how to receive be a top priority. Allow yourself to be helped and supported and deeply encouraged. Say thank you for everything that shows up.
28. Learn the art of non-violent communication and let your relationships flourish.
29. Dare to organize your life around the things that you actually care about, rather than the things you feel you should care about. Let your google calendar be a powerful reflection of your most important values.
30. Waiting for confidence is like waiting for Godot. Confidence is the result of taking inspired and breathtaking action and not the prerequisite. Include actions that light you up and actions that make you gasp in every 90 day cycle (and, ideally, every day) to garner the most exciting and fun results.
31. Commit to a project you would create if it were your last year on earth.
32. When you don’t see a clear path ahead of you, or can’t find any other paths that look like where you want to go, it's a sign that you are on the right path. The trailblazer’s path is made moment to moment, and sometimes you can only see one small step ahead. Keep going, and let intuition + a healthy dose of fear be your compass.
33. You can. End of Story.
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