Invisible | in·vis·i·ble | in-ˈvi-zə-bə | (adj) =
hidden, impossible to see, withdrawn, inaccessible to view
Are you choosing to be invisible?
Historically, I've been a pro at invisibility. Growing up as the shyest kid I knew, hiding (literally or metaphorically) from people, situations, and experiences was one of my strongest suits.
Being invisible feels comfortable. It keeps us from getting hurt, it prevents us from being a human being with needs and desires, and it shields us from the terrifying possibility that we could, actually, be great.
But if greatness is our destiny, we must train ourselves to be keenly aware of when we are conspiring in our own diminishment. We do this so we can change the game.
Invisibility in action looks like:
You are someplace where you've decided the people in power are “more important” than you are. You decide for these people that they don’t want you and you are not good enough, so you shrink out of your vibrant presence and become a non-entity. Though technically still “there,” you remove yourself from the equation by minimizing physically, diminishing your words, and deadening the light inside of you to signal that you know you don’t matter.
You decide that the needs of a person you’re in relationship with are more important than your own, and in what feels like the most selfless act, you perform all types of gynmastics to make sure they are prioritized and you are not.
You have something to share - a piece of art, an idea, a message - but you decide that it doesn't have value and no one wants it so you keep it locked up in your heart, drawer, or computer.
The cost of choosing invisibility is high because
It prohibits you from experiencing real connection with other humans, yoking you out of the rapture of being alive.
It erases the wonder and immensity of who you are.
The opposite of being invisible = being seen.
Being seen is a radical decision that you make, daily. A line you draw in the sand declaring that you are no longer going to teach people to view you as a nothing.
Being seen requires you to organize yourself around the principle that you are worthy of the path you desire.
Being seen demands that you advocate for yourself with your words, voice, thoughts, body, and actions.
The only way to get to the next evolution of your greatness is to stop being invisible and start teaching people to see you for all that you are instead of all that you’re not.
Flexing your being seen muscle won't feel comfortable at first, but it is how you will change the game.
And change the game, you must.
So,I'd love to know: Where are you choosing to be invisible?
How can you be seen?
I believe in you,
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