On our most recent Full Moon, I led myself through a DIY moon ritual.
(Stay with me, even if moons aren't your thing ;)
The last few months have felt like a dramatic rollercoaster of feeling fired up and exhausted to the bone—inspired by breathtakingly courageous voices in our national midst—hopeless and crying every day—operatic waves of love for everyone I know + strangers with kind eyes—discovering seismic anger I was trying to pretend wasn't actually there and then realizing I forgot to eat or drink water for hours.
HANDS UP IF ANY OF THIS IS YOU, TOO.
I don’t know how to do moon rituals so I googled it because my off-the-hook Sisterhood tells me the moon can help in challenging times.
I went outside on our porch and lit several candles, some palo santo, and sage.
I filled a bowl of water in the sink downstairs and spilled most of it on the way up the stairs.
I followed some of the directions and made up several new parts.
This is what a DIY Moon ritual looks like when you are a nonlinear duck.
I wrote down things I long to let go of ::
Carrying pain that does not belong to me.
The Patriarchal disease of scarcity and its accompanying symptoms of not ever enough.
Overwhelm & feeling behind.
Hopelessness & exhaustion about the state of our world.
I burned each one and then placed the papers in the water.
I legitimately nearly lit our deck on fire.
I did some uncensored dancing.
I felt very very alive.
I wrote this letter to my warrior...
I am exhausted. Angry. Heartbroken. I am supposed to be a professional enthusiast and right now in this particular moment I cannot locate my enthusiasm. Marianne Williamson says we are living in warrior times and I agree but most days I feel like a tender lamb baby even though I want to feel like wonder woman. And then I go on the internet and feel my nerves and organs on the outside of my body and like nothing we do matters. Today I broke down on my senator’s answering machine and then again to Michael. I am hurting for everyone. It is my job to rise up and I want to be stronger.
Can you help?
My warrior --bless her—has a badass response time and wrote back right away.
I love you.
I am here—with boundless energy.
Summon me daily & let me show you strength you don't yet know.
Your tears are blessings and your anger is fire—(you know this)—both seeds of your deepest courage.
We can handle all of it.
Except the internet.
Stop stewing on the internet.
Don’t wait to feel strong.
Start from the tender place and you will feel me with you.
Stop overthinking, stop scrolling, and do the next brave thing.
Do the next brave thing.
Brave cuts the Tiny Terrorist's BS and shoots straight to the warrior’s heart.
Brave means we act in spite of whether or not we’ve got it perfectly right or know how it will turn out.
Brave means now—not tomorrow.
From the tender place she says.
1. Fall is an excellent time to let go of what is no longer serving you--burdens from the past, toxic relationships, unhelpful patterns of behavior— I am not posing to be an expert on moon rituals (and particularly not the required fire safety), but I do encourage you to take a moment to consider:
What burdens can I let go of? What would I love to set free?
2. If you, too, have been feeling ungrounded or lost in any form, I encourage you to write a letter to your warrior. She’ll probably get right back to you because apparently warriors are good at everything including timely correspondence.
Summoning warriors and DIY moon rituals is apparently an excellent strategy for turning things around.
Most importantly, I'm taking my warrior's advice to do the next brave thing ::
#TurnThisThingAround—7 days of action beginning THIS Monday October 15th.
I've received messages from many of you about wanting to contribute in this turbulent time while at the same time feeling overwhelmed about how to go about it.
I am moved to hear you asking these questions—I am by no means a seasoned voice on the topic, but I care deeply about what is happening in our world right now.
I compiled resources in this accessible document, and since I have an excellent track record of getting people to do brave things in community, this 7 days is my beginning answer for us.
You can sign-up and learn more HERE, but I will be sending a (short!) daily email, encouraging you to do at least one small but mighty thing a day in service of what you stand for, and then going to do whatever makes your heart sing.
The community dare is to raise our collective vibration and level up our own personal bravery and commitment—without using the patriarchal operating principles of shame, competition, judgment, over-exertion, perfectionism, and guilt.
1. Studies prove shame is not an effective motivating tool, and
2. We cannot dismantle the master's house with the master's tools. Thank you, Audre Lorde.
We will be focused on civic action in America—but those of you in other countries (and I am deeply grateful that you are with us!) are more than welcome to use this structure for turning something around in your own community.
You can also use the 7 days to focus on turning around any area of your life.
What I can guarantee from years of experience is that when we get focused, courageous and committed in one area of our lives, we uncover a strength that applies directly to the others.
I’ll give you 3 specific ideas a day, or you can come up with your own.
Regardless of whether you do the 7 days with us (I hope you do) — here is a google doc with 33 brave and creative action ideas to explore right NOW.
I will also be continuing the conversation and amplifying your work on Instagram.
2 questions for YOU ::
1. Will you take 3 minutes and lovingly share this email and this google doc with 3 (or 300) people in your world who might benefit from it?
2. What is your next brave thing? Find me on Instagram or hit reply to this email to let me know. I read everything you write to me.
If you have been feeling challenged by the myriad of obstacles coming at you this fall, a gentle reminder that breakdowns are the new breakthroughs, and you are stronger than all of it.
I believe in us.
ps // Enjoy this #Turnthisthingaround playlist. It is stylistically diverse and I have been listening to it everyday as I do my daily burpees and dance-breaks for the resistance.
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